Hello revered readers! Happy Sunday and a Happy New Week to us! It's been some days here, trust you missed us!
Have you ever had to stop and think about what fork to use after a meal arrives at a dinner party? Have you ever wondered what is expected of you when you're a weekend guest in someone's home? How about those times you’ve been corrected as to how to respomd to a compliment? You want to do the right thing, but you're not sure what that is.
All these revolve around what we all know as “etiquette” and social rules”.
All these revolve around what we all know as “etiquette” and social rules”.
So today, I will be starting a series I call “Etiquette challenge”...We all know how etiquettes or social rules are really essential in our relationship with ourselves and with one another. The theory of social etiquettes or rules is a very broad one as it borders around : dressing manners, table manners, communication, good phone manners and the list goes on. Today's edition will be on “Communication”.
I implore you revered readers that you join me in this journey. You will definitely enjoy every bit!
To start with, social rules or etiquettes are those basic acceptable norms that should guide our daily relationship with ourselves and with other people. Some of these rules are not written anywhere but they are just conceived or expected behaviors required from every individual.
Now to the topic of today:
Communication:
Regardless of who you are, you’ll have the need to communicate throughout life. Being a good communicator can do a variety of things for you, including sharing important information, winning people to your side.
Regardless of who you are, you’ll have the need to communicate throughout life. Being a good communicator can do a variety of things for you, including sharing important information, winning people to your side.
Rules as to communication:
•Conversation – Learn how to hold a decent conversation, with back-and-forth dialogue. Never monopolize a discussion, or you may find yourself stuck in a corner trying to figure out why others are walking a wide berth around you. When on a queue, stop trying to hold a conversation across a person in the middle of you and the other party.
•Conversation – Learn how to hold a decent conversation, with back-and-forth dialogue. Never monopolize a discussion, or you may find yourself stuck in a corner trying to figure out why others are walking a wide berth around you. When on a queue, stop trying to hold a conversation across a person in the middle of you and the other party.
•Learn to say “thank you” and “I'm sorry”. The importance of this cannot be overemphasized. I personally love to hear the word “I’m sorry” when someone offends me. This doesn't however mean that forgiveness is hinged on that but it just has a way of taking my mind off whatever was done. Say “thank you” for every gesture towards you, it doesn't cost you anything. Learn to say “sorry”, it really does go a long way!
•Gossip – Never gossip. Not only is it bad form, if word ever got back to the person you were talking about, you can pretty much be assured you’ll be the subject of the next gossip session.
•People’s names – I know how some of us are not so good with learning people's names. However, it's good thing to remember people's name as it tells a lot. Here's a trick for you, when someone tells you their name, repeat the name to their hearing. For instance, First speaker: “Hi, I am Tolu”, Second speaker : “Oh, nice meeting you Tolu”. That should work for you. Note: In case someone's name skips your mind, don't try to name them over again, you could just ask politely, “I’m sorry, could you remind me your name”?
•Cell phones – Our phones could be distractions for us particularly in the public. When you are in a conversation with someone, try to avoid picking continuous glances at your phone, try to avoid reply to chats,it could be rude to the person you are talking to,except for emergency cases. Whatever you do, ignore your phone while you're checking out at a bank cashier stand. Texting or chatting on the phone is rude to the cashier and the people behind you.
•Social media – Facebook, Twitter, and other social media platforms are part of most people’s lives. Remember that not only can your friends see what you post, others can repost, copy, share, or retweet anything you put out there. Be very careful with what you post online!
• Taking Compliments : Some of us could be guilty of justifying compliments. For instance : “You sang well today” -’Oh, I couldn't have done less” ,
’’You look beautiful”- “I know right”
When someone compliments you, take the compliment. Note that, nobody is entitled to compliment you, so when it comes, why not embrace it.
The list goes on and on people! Do well to drop other basic etiquettes you know of as regards communication.
Enjoy!
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